Just...don't

I re-read "I am not here to please you" today. I still believe it, but I just wanted to add a little something I realized just now.

Not only are their statements about my personal life invalidating my desires, they could also really be a HUGE source of pain for someone in a different situation! I mean, a "compliment" about "a little you running around" could really sting for someone who's infertile, or a "future mother" comment could be painful for someone who was turned down as an adoptive parent. And nine months of being "so cute pregnant" is not exactly reason for altering your whole life once that pregnancy is done. They don't know all the details and could really wind up causing someone a lot of pain.

Pre-suppositions are just plain rude. Don't do it.